I traded nights around and stayed last night for day 55. Agree, his case seems somewhat rare in his ability to tolerate the open wounds for so long and as well he claims he is pain free, but on a relatively low dose on the morphine pump - he's outlasting a box of batteries for the pump...my poor taste humor, but I did get the alarm to replace batteries.
As you can imagine, much earlier in the stay at hospice, despite the severity of the wounds, we often looked at each other asking ourselves what the heck are we doing here??.. he should be back at infusion getting another chemo treatment.
I seem to be faced with the moments after an extra dose for nurse maneuvers for cleaning where the covers get thrown off the bed and I get asked to help him get out of the bed, he says "we're getting out of here" - and you know that's not possible, his legs won't move - and I quickly have to change the subject to distract him before he gets angry.
The urostomy collection bag is the biggest change in the last day or so, highly concentrated like a dark brown apple cider color. His liquid intake is very low so naturally the dehydration and urine concentration are expected. His patch around the stoma leaked too, so that had to be replaced, I never learned how to affix the patch, my sister did. When he could talk more he was teaching the nurses how in only the manner in which an engineer could do things step by exacting step how to affix the hardware to him, ensure proper drainage, etc. At the university hospital the nurses took detailed written notes. He's very very picky about that stuff and used to get very upset if someone didn't do it right or he developed a leak. There is some learned art to affixing the patch to the skin such that there is no crack, tiny fold or bubble that later causes a leak.
We've run through a collection of vhs tapes of which just a vcr in the room, so I bought him a dvd player to watch the latest Bond movie that he missed from early this year and left of collection of other movies for him, he can only watch a few minutes at a time, but something for him to enjoy while I'm busy trying to do my office work from his room with my ears open to assist if needed. We've learned to somehow integrate more everyday life with his hospice room being an extension of home or the workplace. The is a danger to recognize that he doesn't get the rest he needs with the activtity in his room, so we do try to be conscientious about that and excuse ourselves to the library room down the hall so he can get some peace and quiet.