Carol,
If your dad was able to come home from the hospital that soon, it is certainly a good thing.
Here is a link to University of Michigan information and instructions for post op recovery after neobladder surgery.
UofM Neobladder recovery
Also, being worn out and depressed after the surgery is normal.
Do encourage him to walk. It is really good for recovery.
Have someone walk with him. Chat along the way. Don't want to over do it but getting the exercise helps in recovery.
It is a long recovery as it is a huge surgery. I never had heart surgery so I'm not sure which is tougher on you.
Usually, hot water and pumping the plunger in the sink can clear those blockages in the syringe but it is good to have some on hand just in case.
I am a little surprised that they didn't explain how to flush the foley while he was still in the hospital but as long as they are doing it now, it should be OK.
ALWAYS keep a close eye on the catheter bag to be sure the foley does not get clogged up. That can cause some serious damage and overstretch the neobladder and other issues.
He should ask the doctor for the flushing schedule but I think it is like every 4 hours or if it seems to be clogged.
Drink at LEAST 8 glasses of water a day to keep things going and keep mucuos down.
Use sterile water only for the flushing.
He may also need to be taking Senecot or some other stool softener. He wants to avoid constipation.
Most of this is in the document from UofM.
If he's having a lot of pain, keep an eye out for fever which may indicate an infection. Walking can help reduce pain. You don't want to let the pain get out of control but at the same time, you do want him to be weaning himself off of the pain meds and maybe switching to anti-inflamatories. Ask the doctor about this before doing anything though.
He should be very careful getting up and sitting down to not strain the incision area as he will want to avoid risk of hernia along the incision area. No lifting.
You may want to ask the doctor about the post-op care plan. That is often sent home with the patient when released from the hospital. He certainly should have had
something.
If he seems to be getting too depressed, definately notify the doctor. They might want to prescribe something temporarily to help with that. However, it is normal to be somewhat depressed after this. As recovery progresses, it tends to get better.
He can also come on here and chat with some of us. A lot of us have been through the surgery. If he doesn't want to go online to do that, ask him if you can post some questions for him. We're more than happy to help.
Mike