Welcome JC,
Sorry you wound up having to join the club, but since you have I'm glad you've found this site. There is a wealth of information here. Read the BLC Information on this site to get some basic information.
As Jack mentioned, you want to get the pathology report. If you had CIS in addition to the tumors, that has relevance for treatment.
If it is invasive (into the muscle) then RC is something you and your uro (and 2nd opinion doctor) should discuss.
If it is CIS, then BCG has been very succesful for many, many people. Check out
www.bcgoncology.com/treatment/bcgInst.html
. Dr. Lamm is world renowned for his BCG treatment protocols.
Don't be surprised if you can't start BCG at the 6 week mark. If you are still having bleeding, they sometimes prefer to wait until that stops in order to reduce the risks of side effects.
I failed BCG treatments, which means that I had a severe reaction after the second instillation so my uro stopped the treatment and switched me to Mitomycin instillations (which I also failed after 3 instillations). I am in the minority though. The majority of people go through BCG. Sometimes they have to reduce the strength of the dose but, according to Dr. Lamm, there is not evidence that the reduction causes reduced efficacy.
If your BC is not invasive yet, then you may want to hold off on the RC idea. You should also know that they remove the prostate when they do an RC.
Most uro's will want to try BCG or Mitomycin instillations to reduce the recurrence of the bladder cancer. Most likely, they will have you come in for a cysto exam every three months to keep an eye on things and catch it early. I would suggest that you ask them to do cytologies and FISH tests at each of the 3 month cystos as well. CIS can be invisible during a cysto exam but cytologies and FISH (both tests of the urine) can reduce the chance that they miss it.
Once you get the pathology report, let us know what it says.
Since I live in Colorado, I wound up going to the Anschutz Cancer Center at the University of Colorado Hospital once my BC came back. It was just shy of two years when mine came back (but there are different types of cancers and some are less aggressive than others). Mine was only CIS, which tends to be very aggressive. After my RC, I am fine and cancer free though.
I also went to MD Anderson in Houston which is ranked number 1 for cancer hospitals and number 9 for Urology. Have a look at the rankings of hospitals here:
www.usnews.com/directories/hospitals/index_html/specialty+ihqcanc
for cancer.
For rankings of Urology, look at this list:
www.usnews.com/directories/hospitals/index_html/specialty+IHQUROL/
The top 2 for urology are within striking distance for you. Johns Hopkins in Baltimore and Cleveland Clinic.
Let me reinforce what Jack already said. Feel free to ask ANYTHING. Nothing is too personal on this site. Many of us have been through what you are going through now. Even though some of us are cancer free, we keep coming back to this site to try to contribute and help new folks out because we found the site so helpful from the beginning and still do now. I still ask questions related to my neobladder and the folks here are great at sharing experiences.
Mike