Hello, Gay, and welcome to a group you really didn't want to join!
You have just been hit with a lot, and it is going to take a while to absorb all the information. First, the statistics are NOT always that bad. It appears that your doctors have found this at a stage where it can be cured and you can look forward to a long and happy life.
As you read through the material on this web site and our forum/blogs you will see that there are lots of people who have been diagnosed with cases similar to yours, or much worse, who have "come out the other end" with very good outcomes.
Please feel free to ask all the questions that arise and we will try to answer them. You have a lot of friends here.
Sara Anne