Dan,
While I do agree that the decision is ultimately the patients, I also think that by being in a relationship, You often have to put the other person BEFORE yourself. In a relationship spouses often confer with each other on spending more than a certain amount of money, no major purchases without consulting the other etc...This is the spouses life too. That is what a marriage is. Two lives becoming one. Well this is a much more important decision than buying a car, or a new fridge!!!
The Wife Again,
I really feel for you. I hope that everything works out with the path that he has chosen. I guess I just wish we were in the same position. My husband is dying from this disease, and we have small children yet at home. Our decisions have all been taken away from us, now we are dealing with Chemo, that can't cure the cancer but MAY give him alittle more time...
I agree with Dan that you should find a support group in your area, usually if you contact the social worker at the Cancer Center they will have the information you need, or The American Cancer Society. Unfortunately you will not find alot of support groups out there for this type of cancer. There are many for Breast, Colon, End stage Renal,etc...The subject matter would be very similar though and may work out fine for you. Maybe look for one that isn't Cancer Specific?>???
I do not envy your position right now, it is a desparate, helpless, and frustrating feeling being the spouse of a Cancer Patient. If only for the mood swings alone. If you would like to talk please feel free to private message me and I would be happy to give you my phone number.
You are in my thoughts,
Karen