Hi Maria,
I believe the gemcitabine is also called gemzar. The 4 months of chemo I did were cisplatin and gemzar after my RC for stage 3 bladder cancer. The cisplatin was nasty - many side effects; however, the gemzar seemed much easier to tolerate. I think there are pages on the cafe about the chemos, side effects and helps for coping with chemo.
Wishing you guys the best, God Bless, Holly