TinyTown7,
Glad you found us. Feel free to ask more questions directly.
My invasive bladder cancer was diagnosed in Sept 08 and my RC and neobladder was Oct 9th, 2008. Since I previously had non-invasive and knew there was a chance it could come back, I spent A LOT of time researching different options.
My first choice was neobladder, second choice Indiana pouch, and last choice ileal conduit.
I wanted as close to normal as possible. You never know for sure what you will get until the surgery starts and they see what they have to work with.
I can tell you that I asked people on this forum and for the most part, people are happy with whatever diversion they got. I think part of that is everyone thinks it will be worse than it really is.
One thing is very important about this surgery. I would venture to say it is the MOST important thing about this surgery. Get it done at a highly reputed "bladder cancer" center. You don't want a local urologist or general cancer center. You want a surgeon that does this day in and day out. The experience and skill of the surgeon is critical to fewer complications, higher success rates, and lower recurrences. Sounds pretty important, doesn't it?
Be careful of strip mall cancer centers or generalists. It's not just the surgeon, it is also the nursing care post-op so you want a whole team that deals with RC and various diversionary techniques on a daily basis. there is a reason that people from all over the world go to these top centers.
I wish you the best of luck in your surgery and please do keep us informed of your progress and ask any follow up questions you may have.
Mike