Yes, I"m positive it has to do with age, and the fact that most of the people who get online to find answers and communicate are under 70, while the reality is that the bladder cancer population is dominated by those 70 yrs old and over.
However, I've read in more than one retrospective study that age should not be an excuse against getting an internal pouch/reservoir or neobladder, nor chemo or cystectomy. That in fact, the elderly can handle all of those options and treatments just fine in the majority of cases.
It just makes me wonder! I do think life with an external pouch isn't the end of the world, having heard this so often from those who've been there .
Maybe there are some alternatives for those allergic to tape. I've read of 'stoma covers' of natural fibers. There are some links on the ostomy resource pages,
blcwebcafe.org/ostomyresources.asp
Whatever procedure gets used, I wish you both all the best with surgery and recovery.
Wendy