jchammond,
If lack of control is an issue-I would suggest that you consider listening to or reading a book on mindfulness. Quite by accident, not understanding what mindfulness was, I found a book entitled “the untethered soul“ thinking it was a mindset book. Five minutes in I realized that it was anything but, however subject matter has changed my life in those around me. What I learned from this book, and other readings and listenings on mindfulness has enabled me to live in the now instead of the past that I cannot change or the future that may never arrive in the same fashion that my mind makes it out to be.
This allows me to always be in control. It was my mind that was out of control, not the circumstances around me. Now that my mind has been subordinated to me-I am very very free. Go to Audible, get the book, and give it a listen. I hope that it is as life-changing for you as for me.
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