Worob, welcome to our "group" & happy you found us but, we are always sorry you have to be here. Also, thanks for your service. I am almost claustrophobic from the few subs I am have been in.
While none of us are doctors and all of us have slightly different diagnosis, I like your plan of attack. Many of us also like the idea of a 2nd opinion at a major teaching or bladder cancer center as so many practices see mostly prostatic cancer. BCG also has been proven to work in many cases. Keep posting as you fight this with questions or simply rants. Many people are here to listen and offer ideas and hope!