First, take a deep breath!!! Oh how I hate to see someone else starting this journey
However, first things first. IF your diagnosis, so far, as been only by cystoscopy, there is even a chance that it might not be cancer! The definitive diagnosis will be made after the TURB
(transurethral resection of the bladder), or, as you referred to it, "scraping." Rather than scraping, the uro will take biopsy samples from various suspicious areas and send them to a pathologist for diagnostic analysis. Also, he may then remove any lesions that he thinks might be cancerous, and that he is able to.
Several days after that he will be better equipped with specific information to discuss with you.
Very often, the first TURB is not enough. A good uro will repeat this procedure in several weeks to be sure that he/she was able to sample all suspicious areas, and to double check others. Even at excellent urological centers, the second TURB finds things that were missed the first time.
Where are you located, geographically? Where are you being seen?
Unfortunately, many urologists are not experts in bladder cancer treatment. This is as very treatable disease in most cases, IF the correct treatment is started early. However, many, many urologists spend their time with prostates and are not really proficient in the nuances of bladder cancer. One of the major TV networks had a report just a few months ago on the HUGE percentage of bladder cancer patients who do not receive optimal treatment.
Therefore, if at all possible, we ALWAYS recommend a second opinion at a center that has specialists in this area. After you receive you pathology results, this would be a good time to seek one. You will either find that your current uro is "right on" and doing/recommending all the right things, (best case) or you will find that there are other, better approaches. If you let us know where you are located, geographically, we can perhaps make some recommendations.
Best of luck to you. Feel free to ask any questions here...we have BEEN THERE, DONE THAT!!
Sara Anne