Hope..first of all you have one of the top Uro/surgeons in the US in Dr. Steinberg and some of the finest pathologists at Uof C.
One of the things you don't want to do is judge his personality. He's in the OR 4 days a week and has 1 day to see new patients. He may or may not have a lot of time to answer questions. At this point your father is having gross hematuria and will be obvious to Dr. Steinberg that he needs a TURB as soon as possible. The specimen the doctor took during a cystoscopy will be of little value and he may just reject it right off. First you make sure your father understands what a transurethral resection is. The only thing you need to really ask him is how many TURBS do you do in a week? How many reconstructions, should that be necessary, in a year? how long is the TURB procedure? Will i need to have a catheter after and for how long? When will pathology be back? May i pick up those reports myself at the hospital? (you can)
Once you determine the path you need to go down here is a link to a page with some pretty good questions...but they're all mute right now.
blcwebcafe.org/content/view/101/111/lang,english/
Here's an article by Dr. Steinberg which answers a lot of questions about bladder cancer.
emedicine.medscape.com/article/438262-overview
Good Job Hope....by the way Steinberg is listed in the Best Doctors in the US.....
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