Alisa.....absolutely you can get a second opinion. Everyone that has a diagnosis of cancer should and usually does and you want someone who is a specialist in bladder cancer. Many uro's know a lot about prostate cancer but do not see that much bladder cancer. This is a highly specialized field.
As for the pathology report it is yours...all you have to do is call the hospital where he had his tests and request a copy. No matter where your husband is in his prognosis you want a multidisciplinary team on your side of uro's, oncologists, radiologists, pathologists (very important) and those that deal with palliative care. You are not offending your uro by getting a second opinion...my second opinion saved my life.......by all means please consult with Mayo and Dr. Blute and get in as quickly as possible.
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