Hi Liz,
Being diagnosed is certainly life changing - it seems you are keeping your wits about you, too
I was diagnosed in January 2007 and I had the neobladder done with robotics at Mayo's in Minnesota. Making the decision was hard - I also leaned toward the Indiana pouch as it seemed less intimidating but my dr did convince me to go the neobladder route which I had done on March 13, 2007. Then I started 4 months of strong chemo which didn't end until July 30th, so training the neobladder was hard with all the diuretics in chemo. However, I am pleased with it now. I do not have to self cath nor have I ever had to. I have daytime continence, and nighttime continence is very good. If I overtire myself or have a few smirnoffs - well I may not wake up as quickly as I should to stay dry. I do not set an alarm either at night - I just feel a cramp and get up and go lol.
Should I be able to answer anything for you - just let me know - I check in here everyday. You are in my prayers, Holly