lee, I'm going on 65, I have my neobladder 14 months now. My tumor was Hi grade and my cancer aggressive. 12 weeks of chemo before the surgery. It's a walk we hear have all taken and you'll do fine. It's just a new street. There's a lot of info on this page, so read back. As far as catheterizing, it's not like the tube they use and leave in. It's much thiner and you'll be shown how to use it. I used the disposable pre lubed and used more lube and it's only temporary. It is only in the beginning until you learn how to train and use your mussels to keep that fluid moving. Stay hydrated, drink, drink drink, special in the beginning, when you come home with the catheter in with the bag. Keep that mucous following. Your young and it has been for me the best way. Reread nevadajeff, you do have to work at it. We'er hear for you. All the best, and God Bless. Stay in touch.