Dear Maria,
Wow! I recognize how busy some of these doctors must be but there really is no excuse for treating a cancer patient with such disregard. I would write a letter to their "Patient Relations" director and describe your visit just as you have with us...their response may not make you feel any better but at least a complaint will be registered. And given that kind of treatment, your visit should be a "no charge" and why should anyone have to pay for such unkindness but of course they will charge you. And I would NOT allow that guy to touch me either! Somehow, someway, you need to find someone who is better than this guy. >
Also, as I understand it, if you get radiation, there is the possibility of damage to the intestines and then the doctors may not be able to use them for a neobladder or a Indian Pouch. So I would be cautious in regard to accepting that idea. Remember, you are in charge; you are the customer; you get to call the shots and don't let any of these doctors intimidate you. They may have a medical degree but most are lacking in a real sense of compassion & understanding.
Keep us informed....stay in touch...do try to have a happy Christmas in spite of the medical profession. Don't let the bastards wear you down! Melodie