Hello Dan... Welcome to our forum. I'm sure at 52, this is not a place you expected to be seeking out, but we are glad you found us. Hopefully you can be rid of that catheter soon. And yes, waiting for that path report is so very nerve wracking and scary. It wouldn't be normal if you weren't freaking out a bit, but keep in mind that IF it is bc, it is also very treatable. There are many of us here that can vouch for that.
I am not familiar with your area, but some others here may be as far as any recommendations. You are correct in that a urologist who sees many cases of bladder cancer is of utmost importance. In the meantime, our Treatment Center Finder may be helpful. It is under the Help menu above. Or here is a link:
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Please stay in touch and feel free to post any questions you may have. We are here to help as much as we can by sharing our own experiences and knowledge.