So sorry you are in this situation! BUT please remember that, depending on the extent of the bladder cancer, there is a lot that can be done to treat it. For example, I have now gone almost 9 years since my diagnosis, and still have my bladder and no signs of recurrence. Herb, who just recently posted, had his bladder removed over 6 years ago and is doing fine.
All of know how you feel...we were there once ourselves. Once you and your husband get over the initial shock, you will find that there is lots of hope and support.
What is his exact diagnosis? If we know that, I know that many people will have suggestions and information for you both.
Sara Anne