Kay,
When I was diagnosed, my best friend since 4th grade called me and told me that her brother had had a tumor removed from his bladder over 10 years before. After the TURB the Urologist told him that the tumor he removed was the largest tumor he had ever seen. I guess it has been well over 12 years now, and my friend's brother has had no recurrances.
You pose a very good question about the qualifications of your Mother's Dr. I was actually thinking about this subject when I woke up this morning. How much can we attribute our "good luck" to the skill of the Urologist who removes our tumors? I feel that my Dr. was very conscientiuos and he actually went in 6 weeks later to make sure that he got it all. My Dr. gave me a dose of Mitomycin C after the first TURB even when he thought my cancer was probably low grade. If I were you, I would just check around and see if you can get some feedback from other folks about Dr. confidence. I know it made me feel better when my Dr's nurse told me that if she had Bladder Cancer, she would want it to be my Urologist who treated it. That made my confidence level go way up!
BTW, I didn't have any of the risks either. In fact, one of the lesser known risks for Bladder Cancer concerns people who have low cholesterol. I just got a report back from the Doctor and my cholesterol is HIGH!
My very best to your Mother. She is lucky to have you for a daughter.
Best regards,
Rosemary