Jimswife;
Hello, sorry to hear of you and your husbands resent troubles.
I completely understand the thought process you're both going through. I also understand that Pat, Mike and others are trying their best to help you. I'm going to go out on the proverbial limb here and offer you what may be some comfort
instead of good advice. I had a R/C about eight months ago after dealing with bladder cancer for a little over a year. I
am 63 y/o. I want first to say, over the last twenty years i had a couple other non-related cancers, and had done about all the traveling for medical procedures i ever wanted to do. So this time when i was told what needed to be done, even tho i had read what Pat and Mike had to say on the subject, i chose to stay in my local area. Like you i did do alot of checking on the doctor that was going to do the surgery, until i was satisfied he was good. All i can offer is my
experience over the last eight months. The surgery went as planned. I was home in ten days. Starting to feel better atfer
one month. Feeling good at 3 months. Feeling back to near normal at six months. I had day time control of my new neo-
bladder after a few weeks, I still ware a pad at night, but
is not always needed, i feel more comfortable that way.
I was able to have sex at a little over 3 months. Could
something still go wrong after eight months? Sure it could.
Would it be because i didn't go to a major bladder cancer
site? Who knows. I do know a number of people who have used
the same doctor, and been very happy. We all do what we hope
will turn out best for us. Thats about all we can do!
What people like Pat and Mike do here on this site is
invaluable and i would never doubt them. It just seems as tho
you have made a decision, and i wanted you to know that if
that is what you have both decided, it is ok.
Wishing you both the very best.
Duke