Huc318,
Sara Anne offers good advice - you need to know and understand the different options that may be available to you. You need to be prepared to question your doctors about your options, and consider their answers, then make a choice of how you would best like to proceed.
Your doctors can only help you make a decision if they know what is most important to you about the care you will receive.. The more information you have about bladder cancer and treatment options, the better you will be prepared to discuss your care with the doctors.
May I suggest the following multi-page website from the National Institutes of Health as a reasonable starting point for learning what is possible. You doctors can discuss the pros and cons of each choice if you begin the conversation.
www.cancer.gov/types/bladder
Best,
Jack