Sorry to read about your Mom's diagnosis but, you are at a good place to try and get answers. There are many that are smarter than me and I don't check here much amymore but, I see that I am the only one reading right now.
If I am reading correctly the tumor is grade 3 meaning aggressive or high grade but, it hasn't gone the muscle (non invasive). For which most say and do spare the bladder. With your Mom's frailness and Parkinson's that adds a few more parameters also. If she is up to it the TURB (transurethal re-section) isn't a long surgery-usually 20-45 minutes. My wife, a nurse, says procedue but when they are cutting on me it is surgery! At least that gives you a chance of killing and beating it off right there. BCG can be difficult but, very effective and many tolerate it well. Maybe give a chance one treatment at a time? No one says you have to do 6 etc. As many on this board will say, a second opinion may be also in order. Preferably at a center that has sub specialists that all they do is bladder cancer in their department. Sloan Kettering, MD Anderson for example. Where are do you live? Perhaps another will have a good hospital to get that 2nd opinion!
