I recently read something written by some wise person, just can't remember who said it,
"Pain and suffering are a given in life; misery is a choice."
Rosie is right, that is exactly the same advice I was given when seeking help for depression-which kicked back in with a vengence when I stopped using anti-depressants. The therapist said, "Spend more time with animals and babies," and I actually took that advice.
I got a dog from the shelter and spend much more time with my best girlfriend, she is 4 years old now, I've been her #1 'babysitter' since she was born and it's the first time I've been involved with a baby/little kid. I always lived far from my family and nieces and nephews and only saw them sporadically, and never had kids myself. I thought I didn't like them...until now. I think I was scared of them, but surely have learned how pure and beautiful they really are. I feel lucky to have made this new little friend. And my dog is tops...different than the cats (who didn't give me enough attention!).
I also learned that my depression stems in large part from 'living in the past' and ruminating over hurtful experiences. So now, when I find myself beginning to ruminate over things past I try to stop it immediately and do something positive and pleasurable.
Living in the present can be hard sometimes, but living in the past is plain stupid. I find pleasure in planning wonderful vacations (living in the future, somewhat).
Wendy
Wendy