And that's one thing that hospice can help with....the planning, the discussion. The quiet peace that can come with being able to talk about it openly.
Either way, think of it as a gift that you can give your mother.....the ability to talk openly about her wishes, and her feelings. A gift that your whole family can share.
And you don't have to do it alone. They will help.
And we can help, here at the site. Keep on writing, and asking questions, and listening to what the writers have to say. My husband was only 61 when he died. Julie's husband was not much older. And they were on their retirement journey.
We can't take away the pain, but we can listen. Let us help with that. And try to sleep. Remember, asking for help is a good step.
All of the time I was trying to write this, I was chatting on the private chat room with another cancer widow. That kind of experience is so valuable, and you'll find lots of experience here. Not for dying, but for living well.
Stephany in Iowa