I said goodbye...

This touched me very much and my heart goes out to you and your family.
Feeling very frightened and frustrated about the way my dad is being treated and keeping my fingers crossed that they are doing the best for my dad. Tomorrow he will hopefully have an answer as to what will be done next and at this stage still superficial T1 G3 CIS.
I wish you all well, take care.
~HUGS~

Tom,

Sorry to hear of your loss. Sounds to me like your family made things as comfortale for your dad as was possible...and I agree with another's comment, be gentle with yourself. We can always second guess what we could have done differently....for either ourselves or someone else. I don't think that too many readers who have superficial go to this section because it is so scarey but some of us do so thank you for your efforts in sharing and trying to educate others....that is so important. May God continue to ease the pain that you and all in your family must feel...my prayers are with you. Melodie

Tom I am very sorry to hear about your Dad and losing anyone close really hurts and then right at the holidays making it all the worst. The people down in Superficial will never read this whole board because they are afraid. I had a T3 G3 invasive tumor and lost my bladder and had the chemo b4 my surgery. I myself can't go down to Superficial because the things that are discussed there are not in my league and somethings there just get me angry cause they have no clue how fierce this cancer can be. In My Prayers and I am Sorry for your Lost, Joe

Tom,

I know how hard this must be for you and your family. I lost my dad also to this cruel disease. He was truly a warrior and gave it such a hard fight. I found such comfort in knowing that he wasn't suffering anymore, but it was so hard to say good-bye. I also found myself second guessing decisions we made about his treatment (had RC with ileal conduit) and struggled with that for a long time. I finally just accepted that God needed another angel and now "my hero" spends Christmas's in heaven. I hope in time that you can find that same peace and spend your time cherishing the wonderful memories you have of your dad and not feeling guilty about something that you had no control over!

With sincere sympathy,
Debi

Tom,

My heart goes out to you...You are a great advocate for this disease...Keep doing what you are doing...Education is the only thing that will keep others from experiencing what your family and mine are going through on a daily basis. Metastatic Disease doesn't even let you have a day without pain, and constant reminders of what is ahead. Try as you do to put it in the back of your mind, and put on a smile for an event, or occasion...the thoughts still creep in. I am so glad your father is finally at peace. This illness is such a slow, and agonizing killer...

You should be proud of the way your family banded together for this as well. True colors definately show don't they! I hope this has made your family closer...that is something good that can come from this...

(((((HUGS))))))
Karen

My heartfelt condolences for you and your family. It must have been very hard for you and yours in the past week or so, especially because his passing took place during during the "merriment" of the Christmas Season.

I have read your previous posts and was quite touched by it. I think you, your sister and mother gave your father all the care and love he deserved. I am happy that you had some time to reflect and share which not everyone has. Of course, we have regrets, but often that is because we didn't know certain things at the time, so don't be too hard on yourself.
Thank you for sharing your thought and I wish you, your mother and sister strength for the future when you will go through your grieving process.

Take care, and be gentle with yourself.
Renee