End stage - Hospice Concerns - Infections

Hi Charlie,

I see that your father is still loved and cherished, even though he's gone from this earth. I believe he knows, somehow. Love is the thing that keeps people alive, their memories alive- in our hearts.

Although I'm not a religious person I have had experiences that convinced me death isn't the "end". My sister has visited me in dreams, and the first year after she passed a lot of light flickering happened, especially if I was crying. I felt surrounded by her, felt her presence and then I would get a rush of happiness. I look forward to dreaming about her, as well as my father who was 38 when he died of cancer. In my dreams every detail of his face is clear, although I haven't seen him since '63, when I was 7 yrs old.

Although the saying "death is final" is true is some ways, it's not true in many other ways because losing someone on this physical plane doesn't end the love we will always feel for the rest of our lives. In the end it's all that matters.

I'm glad your father will be remembered in such a way, actually carved in stone. Your family has done him proud.

All the best to you, I wish you and your family comfort.
Wendy

Charlie,
When I visited the hospice my dad died at for the first time I felt close to him as that is where I knew him last. Then as I walked by his room a cold feeling came as maybe I expected to see him there. Your mind plays funny games on you at times. They have a room devoted to past patients where we left pictures of grandchildren etc. They were still there on the altar where we left them. We had no ceremony, just a remembrance, as I left I felt peace for him, as it was a comfortable , beautiful place at the base of the Catalina mountains. Ginger

Greetings all, I haven't been back here for some time, almost lost my way the website has undergone a nice new facelift.

I'm here to share with you all that the memory of my father with go on at a ceremony at the hospice facility to unveil his name etched into a memorial wall amongst others in special recognition of contribution to hospice care.

My father was a very simple "blue collar" family kind of guy, opinionated sometimes but never one to stand out in a crowd. He'll be forever humbled by such grace. I hope he knows how eternally proud we are of him. It was so difficult to convey that to him in hospice, but he must have understood how much we cared for him never leaving him unattended for nearly 3 months at the facility, carrying on with holidays, birthdays, anniversary and such to include him.

Mom is doing well, helping her as much as I can. I think it will be kind of a strange feeling to go back to the facility as I haven't been back since the day he passed away.

Thank you all for your kind words and support.

Charlie

Charlie,
Be grateful for the time you had with your dad, the hospice center I was at with my dad had only 10 rooms, of the 10 only 4 had patients with relatives caring for there loved ne. The others were there only to die alone. I found that so sad. Your dad was so fortuneate to have all of you and you will keep this time you had in your heart, WHERE HE WILL LIVE ON. Take care, Ginger

I'm sorry for the loss of your father.

I wish you and your family healing, and hope his memory brings you comfort.
Wendy

Charlie -- You and your family have my deepest sympathy at the passing of your father after his long, hard fight. Thank you for your honest telling of his fight.
I appreciate your generosity in sharing the story and I wish you and your family peace after a job done lovingly and well -- Susan (mssmr)