My father may be sick... help!

Hello... I'm sorry your Dad is having these issues. We could not begin to surmise what his symptoms might mean since we are not medical professionals. Some of what you listed are bladder cancer symptoms as I'm sure you have read, but not necessarily.

If you have other siblings, you may just have to team up and approach your Dad about what is going on. If he insists on keeping everything private, then you may not have many other options unless one of you is listed on his patient disclosure records.

It's very unfortunate that he isn't sharing information with you because bladder cancer can be very treatable in the earlier stages. But like most other cancers, the outcomes get less favorable as time goes by without treatment or follow-up.

I know you were hoping for better advice, but at this point, it is your Dad's news to share or not. I hope you, your Dad, and your family can come to some resolution about what is best going forward.