Thanks Mike and Diane, I feel so much calmer now and all this has really changed me, I think I have a different outlook on life now, I don't worry so much about the littl things.
I know that we aren't out of the woods yet, this is a lifetime thing and we take it a step at a time. In six months I will have the same worrying and stress until the results come out again, but I have to be confident and optimistic otherwise I will just go crazy.
I am surprised nobody has my husband's problem, I asked my husband agan and the mucus has nothing to do with the surgery. He said the intestine that was used for the neobladder got twisted and could have resulted in complications if it wasn't fixed, so I think the surgeon tried to clear a path and open it with the tube he placed. This will eventually come out.
As for the mucus, isn't this common, I have read a lot about it on the site.