Marcus,
Sounds like you have good Doctors there in Tucson. My father lived in Saddlebrook for many years, until he died 2 years ago at a hospice off Orange grove.
I spent 8 weeks there with him after open heart, then in rehab at Health South , my memories of him are there in the mountains and the beautiful evening skies.
My dads step daughter and her husband are Dana and Ira Adler, in Tuscon.
Anyway back to bladder cancer, my husbands r/c was Sept, 14, in Aug, he had nite sweats, abdominal pains as well., it was after 2 turps, maybe just a side effect of the situation. He had no sign of cancer elsewhere, just in the bladder and muscle. Stage 3 T-2.. Path report the same after surgery, no chemo , no radiation needed.
He did the outside bag, didn't want to cath or be doing flushing etc. with the neo bladder. He is 66. We don't mind the bag at all, its easy.
Good luck with your surgery, I will be there in January, my dads wife lives in a assisted living behind Northwest Hospital on La Cholla. We stay at the El Conquistador, love the grounds, its beautiful. We like to eat at the Wildflower on Oracle, living in Cleveland January is better somewhere else, like Tuscon.
Ginger Beane