I moved your post into its own thread so that it would get the attention that it needs.
Will try to answer some of your questions but I am sure that others who have been where are you and your husband are well also have opinions . If the cancer has not spread beyond the muscle bladder removal can be curative. It is not easy surgery but once the patient has recovered it is possible to have a very high quality of life We have had members here who have gone on to enjoy such things as racecar driving and scuba diving.
There are some things that need to be considered with this procedure Probably the most important is the expertise of the surgeon . Your husband would want to find someone who does many of these surgeries a year and who is very familiar with them. You wouldn’t want to take your Lamborghini auto to a mechanic who works on three Volkswagens a year! You should look for someone who does 20 to 30 at least a year.
There are three types of the versions that can be used after bladder removal. The simplest, the ileal conduit, is the one where the urine is diverted into a “bag” on the abdomen. The other two, the “Indiana pouch “ and the Neobladder use a piece of intestine to form a reservoir like the bladder. No matter which diversion a patient has, they seem to adapt and do well.
Please feel free to ask any questions that may come up.
Sara Anne