I like your wife already lol!
He's had a very, very hard time with this last surgery, so we both understand how very hard this is going to be. You are right, however, in that our quality of life after he gets well will improve greatly. The stress, of course is something we need to be aware of.`
After the "great debate", we actually went to another level of intimacy with each other. He understands i won't abandon him and that yes, I have a baseball bat handy should we need it again
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We both feel the strength and trust in each other, and that gives us both a strong sense of security. it doesn't mean our fears are gone, but at least we understand what those fears are and can deal with them as a team.
Partnership during this journey, I'm thinking, is everything.
The one thing I've found that is important, is to respect his need to control his destiny as much as possible; that the choices he makes from here on out, even the seemingly most minute ones, are very important for him to feel like he's still the "man" in the family and I have the deepest regard for that.
Keeping our daily routines and doing a few fun things, like going out to dinner once or twice a week; watching our favorite TV programs together; anything that keeps us both relaxed and connected. I think these things are very important.
Thank you George.
Rayn