I posted this advice a month ago to another woman who had to make this decision. Since I would give the same advice again, I will.
Just thought I'd chime in with my two cents worth. You will find there are women very happy with their Neo's. I have a Neo and am not happy with it for the following reasons. Please be aware that some of this is graphic.
1. I am not fully continent. What that means is that I leak, some days more than others. I also can not fully empty. Which means that I also have to catheterize. I do not let this stop me and am very active, but it does take a mental tole. By the way diapers make your butt look flat so I tend to wear a lot of loose skirts.
2. Bathrooms are horrible. The stand and hover does not work for me because I am not able to release urine at that angle. So most times I have to catheterize when I am out and about. This works well most times, but standing is when I have a hard time controlling. If I don't cath fast enough I need to use the extra clothes I keep in the over sized purse that I am forced to carry. Plus most public bathrooms here in CA are not as clean as I would wish.
I am sorry if this is more information than you wanted, but I felt it was important to share.
3. Intercourse is no longer the spontaneous, leisurely past time that it used to be. I have to plan ahead, take a shower, catheterize, and hope I am done before my bladder fills again. Needless to say this has caused issues that me and my partner are still working through.
Please keep in mind that I know there are many women that are happy with their Neo and I am happy for them. I just wish that I could go back in time, and do the research I should have done.
Best of luck
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