Ray,
I asked folks the same question not too long ago. Their answers would still apply. The title of the thread is:
To Neo or not to Neo, That is my ?
www.bladdercancersupport.org/index.php?option=com_kunena&Itemid=114&func=view&catid=6&id=21043
I suggest you start at the original post and then read all of the responses from others on the topic.
I can tell you in summary that most folks are happy with whatever diversion they get. A couple of exceptions here and there but in general that seemed to be the response.
As for me, I got a
neobladder on 10/9/08 and I'm quite happy with it. It is the closest thing to the original model since it is hooked up to the original plumbing. It takes a couple months or more to learn how to use it properly, get it stretched to the right size, and gain daytime continence. Night time continence takes a little longer. There are products (e.g. depends pads) that you can wear so that you can go about your normal business and you won't have a problem with leakage showing. It gets better pretty fast but you have to do kegel exercises. Some say the more you do, the faster you get continent. Others say you can overdo it and get hypercontinent. I have never needed to catheterize myself or have anyone else do it since getting my neobladder.
From my research, I'd say the
Indiana pouch would be option 2. Upside of that one is that I don't suppose you would leak and you don't have to worry about learning to control continence day or night because you use a catheter to drain it. You do have to "train" it. I'll let the Indiana pouch users fill you in more on that. They can put the stoma right in your navel so it doesn't even show and you can go to clothing optional (if that's your cup of tea) beaches and nobody would be the wiser.
Finally, the
ileal conduit is the shortest and easiest surgery. You have a stoma with the bag but most everyone who has one is happy with it. Again, no learning continence. Night bags let you sleep all night.
You can do pretty much everything with either option. Scuba diving is not an issue with any option. I'm a diver so I asked the question.
I just recently posted a thread about being more than happy to not have my bladder any more. That can be found at:
www.bladdercancersupport.org/index.php?option=com_kunena&Itemid=114&func=view&catid=5&id=26055
and the title is:
The Upside of Radical Cystectomy. Again, read other people's views as well.
I can tell you that you have come to the right place. Nothing is too personal to ask. I'm sure you will have tons of questions. Browse through the different forum topics to learn what you can from questions and answers already posted and feel free to ask anything.
If you are uncomfortable asking anything, feel free to send Private Mail, but keep in mind, the purpose of this forum is to share information and experiences so the more we put right out there for everyone, the more useful it is everyone.
OK. So this a VERY LONG answer. Hope I've given you some info that you find useful. Do check out the threads I mention above.
I'm sure others will give you their experiences.
Check out major bladder cancer centers if you can. You REALLY want someone who does these types of surgeries routinely. Three a month isn't routine enough. The more experienced the surgeon, the better the result. Common sense.
Best of luck!
Mike