Barbara,
It's so awesome you are there for your sister during such a difficult time. She is in a tough position...struggling with which way to go...what is best for her and there being so many unknowns. I was 57 when I had my RC, almost two years ago and after much consideration, chose the Indy Pouch...and have been very happy with it. My doctor would not even consider a neobladder for females...our spikot is too short he said, and there is just too many problems with incontinence. I did find a doctor who would have done a neo for me but he informed me that all of his patients had to self cath.
I am pleased to hear your sister may now be considering the illieal (the bag) because there is the possibility that the doctors may have to resort to that anyway...they don't know what they can do until they get in there to operate.
I want to reassure you that in most cases we learn to accept and adapt to whatever diversion we end up with....humans are amazing that way. She is obviously quite a fighter or she wouldn't be here today to take on another battle with cancer. She will be in my prayers. You may want to check out my web site (
www.bladdercancerwarrior.com) which relates my experience with cancer...perhaps it might bring her some comfort. Melodie