Lynne,
As well, I can not say that I have had the SAME experience as you but I am learning that each of us endures our own complications. My two cents in the ring says that if your original Dr can't help the situation after one try says it's time to look to others. As Lou says, I too beleive that we have to take the bull by the horns and not only understand what is happeninig with our body but also exactly what the Dr intends to do to solve it. If it makes sense, move forward. If not, ask more questions.
While I was recovering from my surgery in the hospital I was not comfortable with one of the evening nurses and how she wass handling a situation. After some discussion I finally said, "I'm sorry... and do not take this personal but this is my only chance at a semi-normal bladder (neo-bladder) and I am not willing to take chances. I am asking that you either get your supervisor or leave the room and I will take care of things myself but I will not wait till morninig when my Dr. does rounds (as she was suggesting).
Lynne, I do wish you all the best... never stop looking for the right solution.