Hi Shernor,
Sorry to hear about the recurrences and all the travails your husband has been going through. But you're going to a great place as far as bladder cancer treatments go, and should be confident with your choice there.
Some blc-survivors from our discussion group put together 'survival guides' for those who are facing bladder removal or similar surgeries, check out:
blcwebcafe.org/hospitalsurvivalguide.asp
for pre-op tips and
blcwebcafe.org/posthospitalsurvivalguide.asp
for post op.
Wishing you and your husband all the best,
Wendy