Thank you for your reassuring words. I wish this forum could all meet in person. I don't know what we would do without this forum right now. I totally understand what you are saying Cynthia. It's just that my mother's GYN/Urologist at Mt. Sinai in New York should have caught this sooner and it just angers me that my mom has to pay this price. I almost wish that I could backtrack and know that even if it was caught at stage 1, treatments would not have worked and she will still have to do this. As you can imagine, I'm really angry this doctor didn't take the time to hear my mom's concerns of the blood and am mad at myself for being too afraid to look up bladder cancer and then I would have seen how it could be treated if caught early enough. I know my mom is in a great hospital with a highly respected surgeon, but I just hope he isn't thinking too hastily and not giving it a second thought about preserving bladder. I came across this online.
"Living without a bladder can affect a patient’s quality of life. Finding ways to keep all or part of the bladder is an important treatment goal. For some patients with muscle-invasive bladder cancer, certain treatment plans involving chemotherapy and radiation therapy (see below) may be used as an alternative to removing the bladder."