Rogal,
You are correct. The pathology report, and perhaps a second opinion of the pathology report, along with a full urinary tract CT will be a big part of planning. Hopefully you get answers from pathology soonest.
Using the SEARCH feature, from the bar at the top of the screen, you can search for DIVERSIONS and have years of discussion on the subject made available. Search also using the diversions you are considering. Frequently expressed is that most people are not disappointed in their choice, once they adjust to their new normal.
I did not find any absolute answer to my concerns in reading lots of opinions. I learned much about the daily life with the various diversions, and came to my own conclusion as to what would realistically work best in matching my lifestyle. I went into remission during pre-RC chemo, and the RC has been on hold, waiting, watching.
Ask any specific concerns about the choices you are considering - someone should have a thought or two.
Best,
Jack