My boyfriend, the father of our 2 little boys (ages 8 and 4), was diagnosed in late Oct. we thought it was kidney stones. They saw a few small spots and scheduled a TURBT. They removed 10-14 large tumors and declared him all clear (was confirmed with Roswell). He just went back for his first scope and it's back
. They say they saw 2-3 small spots again. It's in a different spot higher up in the bladder like it's moving towards the kidneys (scary). Now he's going to have another TURBT in a couple of weeks. He doesn't do well with the catheter (it's very uncomfortable/painful for him) as well as getting scoped (they have to put him under anesthesia). His doctor feels like he isn't a good candidate for the medicine to prevent it from coming back since he has so much trouble with the catheter. He is 36 and has the bladder of a 76 year old. I feel so stressed!!! I want to help him through this but I'm unsure of what exactly I can do... Any advice would help. Thanks!