Karsonpaul,
For those of us who have had that moment when all the air got sucked out of an exam room when the word Cancer was spoken, and could not even think of what to say or ask until hours later, this site has been of great help.
There are no doctors here. There are people helping people understand and make sense of this disease and help by sharing real life experiences. This site has been my #1 place to really understand the implications of what the doctors say in those 15 minute consultations.
There are years of questions and replies here. I will suggest that you may want to explore the FORUM, starting with the CATEGORIES of "Newly Diagnosed" and "Invasive Bladder Cancer". You will find the questions and suggestions made by others; you can also ask your questions. CLICK on Forum, then click Categories, then select one category and read the questions other have posted, and the replies others have provided - some will match your questions and concerns.
As your husband is newly diagnosed, you may find the following link helpful. It is from the National Cancer Institute (NCI). It is a broad overview of Bladder Cancer (BC), and is a good overview (but not very specific) - many pages on many issues. A good starting point.
www.cancer.gov/types/bladder
Try to allow yourself time to breathe. It is hard to do so when suddenly diagnosed, but try. It will take a bit of time to get used to the changed circumstances.
Once you join, and it is an simple process that does not ask for nor encourage personal identification or information, you can post the questions that you have. Like most of us as we came to terms with our BC, I'm sure you will have many questions.
The moderators here are great, expect a comment form one soon.
Best
Jack
2+ years into the BC journey and counting