I am sorry you need to be here but welcome. This sis something you need to talk to your doctor about make a list of your questions and take them with you. I don't know where you are seeking treatment but make sure they do a high volume of the diversion your husband is having done. You also might consider a second opinion at a major center to cover your bases if you let the group know the state you live in I am sure you will get suggestions.
We had a user in her sixties years back who had polio as a child and had the very same diagnosis your husband has she did very well and has gone one to do very well.
I hope this helps a bit we are here if you need us.
Cynthia Kinsella
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