Very moving and heartfelt words about your father. It's just so sad when someone has to go through so much, and you as a loved one feel so helpless in the face of it all. My husband and I were with both my mother and with his mother when they passed away, and it was a much more peaceful and less frightening experience than we would have thought. It's good you were all able to be with your father in his last days, and I'm sure he was aware of your presence even when he was unable to respond. When my mother was dying, the wonderful CNA who was with us in the room told us to keep talking to my mother, that hearing is the last sense to go and that people who appeared to be unconscious could very likely hear,understand, and be comforted. May you and your family find peace and comfort down the road.
Ann
Small TA Grade 1, May-06; recur (2 tiny), same, June-08; TURBTs both times. BCG begun July-08, dosage to 1/3rd May-10, completed treatment December-11. All clear since 2008.