My Father

Thank you George. I really needed to hear that. He and I made dinner together and he is out driving his 1940 Ford Coupe. He is an awesome guy and I am going to be there for him every step of the way as will my son and husband. It is great to have folks to talk to about this.

Tammie

Well,
Let's not talk about dying. Let's talk about living.
You are now part of the Team.
Make sure your dad starts talking to you about every aspect of this disease and treatment.
He will need you
For a scribe to write everything down at Dr. Visits
For a shoulder..... No one is THAT strong to be alone at this time
Sometimes for a kick in the pants..... The patient is sometimes an ass

You will be less of a daughter and more as equals in this fight.

It's ok to be scared.. But be positive too. Attitude plays a big part in kicking this thing.

And another thing....... Use us for everything. We have been thru this too and we know how you feel. We were scared and alone and needed a shoulder. We'll try to help any way we can

George

Thank you so much. I spoke to his Oncologist's nurse practitioner at mayo today and she clarified some things. He has a T3 N1 tumor. He also has a tumor in the area of his vocal cords. They are wanting to do chemo and then wait and see if they will remove the bladder. I am trying to keep a good attitude for him. He went and worked a while today and came to dinner at my house. He told me tonight he does not want to die but he has accepted the possibility. He is an amazing guy.