I'm going in for my 9th BCG treatment tomorrow. Like your husband, I was diagnosed with bladder cancer last October. After two TURBTs and 6 weeks of BCG treatments and then a rest for a month, we had another look and found a couple of small tumors. They were removed with a laser and that was followed by a dose of chemo. That was just a few days before I turned 62. Going back on 9 May, the doctor gave me the all clear. Hearing, "All Clear," were the sweetest words you can hear. We are in the middle of three BCG treatments for preventative maintenance.
You both have to keep a positive attitude throughout. My wife was my rock. She was the one that kept me going in a positive way. My friends and coworkers helped, but my wife was and still is my best supporter. Finally, I just want you to know that prayers work.
My prayers and best wishes are with you.