Harley,
Here is a free Doctor rating site. I could not find either of my Urologists there, but there were lots of listings for my state. I hope you get a hit.
www.ratemds.com/index.jsp
You might look up your Urology Clinic to see if your Doctor has a resume posted there. If he has a good resume, it might make you feel a little better about what you are having to put up with. I wish you had more options.
It could be that your Doctor and his clinic are just very overworked. I find a strategy that is helpful in getting a doctor's ear is to be the first to be empathetic. But pick your moments. If you are kept waiting in the exam room, you might say, "You seem to be really busy with a lot of patients." This opens the door for you to find out where he is coming from. I find that this usually gains the respect of my doctors and that they are more amenable when I really need some assistance. Doctors are human, too. Still, I wish you had other options. It sounds like you are having problems getting your Doctor's ear at all or getting any moment at all.
This all sounds like trite advice under the circumstances. Normally, I would tell you to look for other options but I can tell from your original post that you feel to be under a time constraint, and since the ball is already rolling.... Let's hope that your Doctor is at least a good and qualified surgeon.
I'm really sorry that on top of dealing with cancer issues, that you are having to be upset by the ill treatment of the medical team.
I wish you all the best. I wish you had more time.
Sincerely,
Rosemary