Thanks to you all for the help and advice. I'm just not sure how to approach my father with a request that he see someone new. He thinks all is settled and he will have the surgery with the guy we know little about (except that he is a poor communicator and his office staff aren't nice). Dad will most likely say that we don't know anything about the doctors at SW Medical either, so what's the difference and time is of the essence.
I am going to call SW Medical Center tomorrow morning and perhaps someone there will be able to give me some guidance. The thought of starting over again with diagnosis etc. is not appealing, but I do want my father to have the best surgeon there is to do this huge operation. How awful would it be if, by putting off the surgery to see yet another doctor, we wait too long and this horrendous disease spreads? I would certainly blame myself for that since all this is my idea.
Any thoughts on how to approach him with my idea of going elsewhere for care?