Dana,
Sorry to hear about the latest news. Hopefully, you are seeing that doctor that Pat mentioned before.
I know it seems like the world is crashing down right now but there isn't time to crash right now. Time to move. Time to start studying up on the surgery and getting prepared.
Many of us here have been diagnosed years ago and we're still here. That should give you some idea that bladder cancer doesn't always mean death. I will not lie and say it never means death either, because it can.
As Pat said, get the CT report from the hospital. If that is not available to you in Greece because of your laws being different, then get on the phone with the doctor and ask him to go over the report with you in detail. If the bladder cancer is in the muscle wall, then surgery right away is certainly the right direction. You need to know if anything was seen outside of the bladder and how far into the bladder wall it has gone. If it has gone deep into the bladder muscle then your husband will most likely require chemotherapy after recovering from the surgery.
Many of us here have had the surgery (myself included) and still others had both the surgery and the chemo and they are still here and posting. Others aren't her posting but they are out in the world going about their business and have put bladder cancer behind them.
It is certainly a scary time for both you and your husband (and I'm sure your loved ones as well). Count on the support of your family and let those who want to help do so. You and your husband are going to be busy with the surgery and recovery so graciously accept offers of help. It lets those around feel they are contributing at a time when everybody (not just the two of you) feel helpless.
Be there for your husband during the surgery and recovery (but be sure to get enough sleep and take care of yourself). You don't want your husband to spend a lot of energy having to worry about you (although he will no matter what you do). Even if he wakes up while recovering and sees you sleeping in the hospital room, he will smile and his heart will swell because you are there for him.
After the surgery, get him up and walking by the next day at the latest. Even if it is walking in place next to the bed. Walking wakes the intestines back up sooner. So does chewing gum which can be done right after waking up (but no swallowing the gum). The first day, he may even feel like "Hey, that wasn't as bad as I thought!". Don't be fooled by that. Sometimes the anesthesia keeps working for a while and the pain doesn't really hit until day two. Walking, walking, and more walking are the key. He won't feel like it but tell him now that of the people who have been through what he is about to go through, we say walking is the key to recovery.
I wish you both the very best of luck! Keep us informed. There will be positive thoughts and prayer being sent your way from around the world who read this site.
Sending positive thoughts now ++++((((((
Mike
PS: That little graphic is supposed to be positive thoughts being transmitted through the internet to where you are. It's faster than through the airwaves.