Ken,
Re-reading your original post and the added complexity of stones found in the kidney I believe I'd use MD Anderson. I know how you feel as many people encouraged me to go straight there. I stayed local ONLY after I was satisfied about the local guy's expertise. That being said, being local he won't have as much backup and resorces that Anderson has. Everyone's case/situation is different. My first TURB revealed (he saw it was tiny with the cystoscope) it was .5CM BUT, the most important thing is how deeply it had invaded the bladder-which was stage 1 (non muscle). That is all that I was dealing with combined with the CT scan. With your extra variables a bigger center would look better to me. It is difficult. It will also be likely even after 1 TURB, a need to be safe, have a second. Should there be kidney involvement, Anderson will have more backup. My guess is you will do fine. Anderson has many motels including a Marriot "Rotary House" lodge that is only for use patients.
www.mdanderson.org/patient-and-cancer-information/care-centers-and-clinics/care-centers/genitourinary/index.html and the Rotary House:
www.mdanderson.org/patient-and-cancer-information/guide-to-md-anderson/services-and-amenities/rotary-house-international/index.html
As Rocky said, get it right the first time.