9 years 10 months ago#31272by Christine Springfield
Great to "meet" you although I know we all wish it were under other circumstances (OK, not with flashing lights behind us either!).
Over the past 3 1/2 years, I have been on both sides of the whole cancer thing. First, bladder cancer for me, and the following year, lung cancer for my husband. There are numerous people on this site with similar experience, so hopefully we can help y'all both get through this. For me, it was a whole lot harder being the caregiver than being the patient. But, my cancer gave me some unique understanding of the treatment process and a much better ability to advocate for my husband's care.
Right now, me and my husband are helping out a neighbor who is going through breast cancer. What we have found is that her husband is having a really hard time grasping the exhaustion from chemo she is experiencing. My husband didn't understand it when I was going through it either and was always pushing me to get up and go do stuff, while all I wanted was sleep. He learned all about it when he went through it and was VERY sorry for waking me up. Not implying that you are doing any of this, but it's something I have seen with other patients also. So, if it applies, toss out the idea of "get up and moving to get it off your mind" and give her as much rest and relaxation as possible. I learned how to do a lot of new things when Scott was asleep (plumbing, carpentry, etc. - Shhh... I don't want him to know... then he'll make me start doing that stuff!).
On a side note, my husband is a former LEO, too. And fire fighter, and paramedic. I wonder at times if his lung cancer was at all related to all those years in the 70's & 80's fighting fires without airpacks but I guess we'll never know.
Walter, welcome to this site. Glad to have you on board. This diagnosis makes cancer a TEAM sport. I speak for the majority of survivors when I say; My Wife(husband, friend, life partner, parent, child) was with me all the way. I couldn't have made it through without her and she continues to "be there" every day as we both move on with our lives after cancer.
Oh, and about that law enforcement slant? I have this problem with these pesky Speed Limit laws. They don't seem to take into account my racing experience as an excuse for ....
.................................... any advice you can give me short of...........
Light a man a fire and he is warm for an evening.
Light a man ON fire and he's warm forever.
08/08/08...RC neo bladder
New Man! [/size]
My husband was a great source of comfort to me during the process and it looks like you are going to be a comfort to your Lori. There is a great caregiver community on here to and hopefully they can help you through some of the bumps in the road you are sure to experience.
Cancer does not just affect the patient, but the whole family. Bless you guys on this journey.
I joined recently in support of my wife Lori (Lori K) who was recently diagnosed. I wanted to extend a heartfelt thank you for the support, information and guidance that all of you on this board have shown her. It has been a difficult and scary road she has had to travel thus far. Collectively, you all have taken some of the bumps out of that road. We are actively acting on the recommendation to seek a second opinion from a University. We will make that journey later this month.
I don't have a great background in such areas, but I'll post from time to time. Mostly, I want to stay informed to hopefully aid Lori when she needs it.
Conversely, if any of you have any law enforceement or criminal justice related questions, please feel free to fire away. I'm a bit more adept in that area.
Take care one and all, Walter