Wow! 27 years old! That is too young to join this club! We may have to change the initiation rules for this, Don't you think?
I am sorry to welcome you to this group but we are an optomistic bunch. Here is the protocol for this site.......THERE IS NONE! Anything goes, even ranting and raving! Give good attention to Pat, she knows the WHERE and WHO. Look up Mike's Chart for Bladder cancer, this will show what happens and what to do.
The rest of us are here to pass on personal experience and to let you know, you are not alone. This is a rather large group and for every procedure we have a "been there, done that" person. They will chime in to coach you along and give you a "pick me up" when you need it.
The best news from your origional post was you uro did NOT spend a long time misdiagnosing you bladder cancer as just a condition related to a kidney stone. He was on top of his game there. But, cancer is cancer, and you have to get to the right people to get rid of it.
As for those in your family who treat you like glass. Let them in on the whole process. They want to help, and the are as afraid as you. You will find a much closer relationship with them if you TALK about it. It is also OK to get the Queen treatment for a couple of days.... You deserve it!
"How the heck you got this" I can't help with.... but turn yourself around and look FORWARD to .... How do I get rid of it and How do I live my life from now on!
George